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For Now / Not Forever

For Now / Not Forever

Let's consider the popular buzz phrase: the "new normal".

It usually indicates a different pattern /way of being that has become the status quo—the beginning of an era, movement, or behavior.

I'd like to take it back a few steps, though, change one letter, and look at what I call the now normal.

I use it to describe the immediate fallout from a pattern—a life changing event that didn't exist a short time ago. It can be anything from mundane to catastrophic. It just indicates a marked change.

The now normal is temporary -- then again, isn't everything? ultimately? The now normal reminds us that whatever we're undergoing, it isn't forever, it's just for now. So often we get carried away by the fearful thought of what if this is the new normal? It isn't -- it's us the now normal.

For example, I was recently working with a client in the beginning throes of menopause -- hot flashes, mood swings, erratic cycles, fuzzy thinking. She immediately equated these sensations with the "new normal"."This is how it's going to be from here on in!", which stirred up understandable feelings of fear and helplessness. I reminded her that these aren't forever, they're just for now.

So when you find Your Self in the middle of this kind of emotional storm, being tossed about:

Stop

Breathe

Invoke the mantra: “This is just for now, not forever.”

Owning the now normal gives us a "twofer". It keeps us in the present, to navigate these changes, and allows us to get used to the shifts they are creating in our lives. There's one more bonus to cultivating the now normal—as time passes, if/when it becomes the "new normal", we're already well versed in how to respond.

Sounds like a win /win to me.